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Choosing your bridal party is hard enough, but choosing your maid of honor can become almost impossible when you have a few really near and dear family and friends. Whether you have two sisters or or two best friends who are just like sisters, here’s some helpful tools when it comes to choosing your maid of honor.
If one of your sisters is married, then there’s an easy solution to this problem: appoint her matron of honor while your younger sister can serve as your maid of honor. If that’s not the case, you can also make them both your maid of honor, but that’s completely up to you. Some sisters may have pre-arranged that they each serve as a maid of honor at one of each sister’s wedding so that everyone gets a turn. The important thing to think about when choosing your maid of honor is who you’re closest with, who will be by your side for every step of the planning process and pre-wedding events, and ultimately, who will be able to handle the stress best. There’s no harm either in not choosing a maid of honor. Its all up to you and what makes you feel comfortable.
If it’s between two friends think about the same things that you would when choosing between sisters. Also think about the long term: Will this person really be around the rest of my life? How about their job and home situation: Have they recently moved or switched positions? These factors may determine whether they’re prepared to take on the role of maid of honor — they might be relieved if you choose someone else!
No matter what you do, talk to the person you don’t choose and explain how important they are to you. They should understand, ultimately you need to do what’s best for you and your big day!